How to Heal the Sister Wound and Reclaim Your Inner Goddess Power

Jan 19

Many of us carry hidden wounds around sisterhood—experiences of trauma, betrayal, comparison, or hurt that have shaped our beliefs about friendships with other women. While these experiences can lead us to build walls, they also offer a pathway to deeper healing, transformation, and empowerment. Sister, you’re not alone in this journey, and your heart’s desire for meaningful, supportive connections is possible. Reclaiming your feminine power within sisterhood begins with self-honesty, accountability, and intentional practices that align with the kind of relationships you truly yearn to create.

The Path to Healing the Sisterhood Wound

To truly heal, we must take responsibility for the role we've played in our friendships—conscious or not. Here’s a look at my own journey through the sisterhood wound and what it taught me about reclaiming my power.

For me, healing began when I finally admitted the ways I contributed to unhealthy dynamics. I had to recognize that my people-pleasing habits and desire to be liked had led me to tolerate relationships that weren’t aligned with my values. Once I took ownership, I realized I could choose differently—and that’s where the power lies.

Ask yourself: Where are you tolerating or settling in sisterhood? Where could you set new standards for the kind of relationships you deserve? Here are the steps that have helped me and that can support you in reclaiming sacred sisterhood.

Sister, I feel you.

Allow me to share a story from my own journey—a moment that shaped me, challenged me, and eventually healed me.

There was a time in my life where boundaries were nonexistent, and I desperately wanted to be liked by everyone. I surrounded myself with people who preached about integrity, but deep down, I knew they weren’t living it. For years, I believed I was doing the "right thing" because I was deeply immersed in self-growth work.

Yet, I was confiding in people who did not have my best interests at heart. I shared my dreams, insecurities, and fears with them—vulnerabilities I should have guarded more carefully. I remember one instance vividly. I told a close friend, and teammate, about my fears surrounding my relationship. I told her that I worried my partner would leave me for someone else, even flattering her by pointing out her beauty as a reason he might be attracted to her. Alcohol had loosened my tongue that night, and I unknowingly fed both of our shadows with my words.

Months later, the very fear I spoke into existence became my reality. My partner and I broke up, and as if to pour salt in the wound, that same friend began dating him. The pain was unbearable. I felt utterly heartbroken, betrayed and devastated, convinced that speaking and feeding my fears to her had conspired against me.

But there’s an important lesson here—one I eventually learned. There’s a difference between living as a victim and reclaiming your power as a creator. I had a choice to make: I could keep asking, "Why did this happen to me?" or I could take ownership of how I contributed to the situation, understand my role, and take my power back.

The Turning Point

In response to the heartbreak, I distanced myself from women, believing they would only bring me pain and steal what I loved. I isolated myself, closed off to new friendships, and carried the wound for years. But eventually, I realized that something was missing: I craved true, sacred sisterhood. A circle of women I could trust, grow with, and confide in.

The healing process wasn’t easy. I did a deep dive into inner work: meditations, energetic cord cutting, sending love to those who hurt me, practicing self-forgiveness, and working with tools like the Hoʻoponopono mantra. Slowly, I began to heal and forgive—not just others but myself. Healing isn’t a one-time event; it’s an ongoing journey. But with intention and patience, I manifested a sacred sisterhood, one built on love, integrity, and mutual growth.

Steps to Cultivate Intentional, Sacred Sisterhood

Pull Your Energy Back to Yourself
Reclaim the energy you’ve poured into unhealthy dynamics, and redirect it inward. Use this reclaimed energy to nurture and love yourself, creating a strong foundation of self-worth that will set the tone for healthier relationships.
Learn to Enjoy Your Own Company
Make peace with your own presence, even in moments of discomfort. Be with your thoughts and sensations, and learn to love yourself deeply here. By cultivating this self-assurance, you’ll naturally attract relationships that honor and support your inner strength.
Set Clear Intentions in Your Journal
Write down the kind of sisterhood relationships you want to call in. What values do you want to share? (Examples: integrity and authenticity). Who deserves to be welcomed into your sacred space? Embody these values in yourself, as doing so will help you attract women who align with your vision.
Let Go to Make Room for Higher-Vibe Connections
Release old relationships that may no longer serve you with gratitude and love. This creates space for elevated relationships built on mutual respect, love, and support.
Create Healthy Boundaries and Be Selective
It’s okay to love people from a distance if they no longer align with your highest vision and self. Be discerning about who you allow into your life, and prioritize friendships that honor your growth and worth. Remember that not everyone belongs in your inner circle or to know the most vulnerable things about you. Trust must be earned.
Seek Aligned Environments for Sisterhood
Put yourself in places that align with your vision of sacred sisterhood—sisterhood circles, moon gatherings, masterminds, workshops. Find spaces that nurture and uplift you, where you can meet like-minded women with similar values.
Celebrate Other Women Genuinely
Shift from competition to celebration. Compliment other women from a place of love and appreciation, not fear or insecurity. Genuine celebration creates a field of abundance that strengthens the sisterhood bond.
Affirm Your Desires with Your Words
Remember, words are spells. Be mindful of how you speak about sisterhood and friendship, and affirm the kinds of relationships you want to call in. Speaking your desires into existence empowers you to attract them.

Journal Prompts to Deepen Your Sisterhood Healing Journey

What beliefs do I currently hold about sisterhood?
What beliefs about sisterhood am I ready to let go of?
Do I feel safe being seen and witnessed by women? Why or why not?
How can I take responsibility for my relationships and reclaim my power?
How can I show up for myself and others in a way that honors my deepest values?
What values do I want to embody to attract my ideal friendships?
What is my ideal vision of sisterhood, and what boundaries will support it?

In Closing

Healing sisterhood wounds is an act of reclaiming your power, raising your standards, rewriting your story, and welcoming relationships that reflect what you value most in friendship. As you honor your values and deepen your self-worth, the connections you attract will naturally resonate with this higher vibration. Trust in the process, stay open to love and connection, and know that the sisterhood you seek is within your reach—waiting for you to call it in.

You are worthy of a community that sees, celebrates, and supports the real you. Let the journey of healing and growth bring you closer to the sacred sisterhood you desire.