Embracing Imperfection: How to Let Go of Perfectionism and Thrive
Perfectionism can be one of the most insidious habits we fall into—convincing ourselves that everything has to be just right before we can take action. Sound familiar? If you've ever felt paralyzed by the need for everything to be flawless, you're not alone. I’ve been there too, stuck in the loop of “I need everything to be perfect before I can move forward.” But here’s the truth: perfectionism is really just procrastination in disguise. So, let’s explore what it means to release perfectionism, why embracing imperfection can change your life, and practical ways to do it.
How Perfectionism Sneaks In: Perfectionism shows up in different ways, often disguised as high standards or the desire for control. Here are some examples:
Postponing Action: You tell yourself, “I can’t start that project until I have everything planned perfectly,” but that day never comes.
Over-Editing Content: Whether it's rewriting emails five times or hesitating to post on social media without editing the picture to perfection, the fear of not being 'just right' holds you back.
Over-Scheduling: You pack every detail into your schedule, believing that a rigid structure guarantees success. I used to do this for my Full Moon Ceremonies, cramming in as much as possible and stressing over the plan - leaving little to no space for the magic to flow.
Critiquing Yourself Relentlessly: You look in the mirror and notice that your hair isn’t perfect or that a wrinkle is showing, and it bothers you more than it should.
Why Releasing Perfectionism Matters: Perfectionism drains our energy and holds us captive. It's mentally exhausting to feel like you have to maintain control and be on top of everything. It keeps us from moving forward and enjoying life as it unfolds. As Robin Sharma wisely said, “The mind is a wonderful servant but a terrible master.”
Embracing Imperfection in Practice: To help both myself and any fellow perfectionists out there, here’s a reminder list of why it’s more than okay to embrace the mess:
Life is Short – Prioritize Joy and Peace: We’re here for a finite time. Would you rather spend it enjoying life or stressing over the details?
Progress Over Perfection: Moving on without everything being perfect allows you to make more progress.
Messy Can Be Beautiful: Just like how a messy bun can look soft and effortless or how salty beach hair feels relaxed and free.
Creative Freedom: The best moments are often unscripted, like licking chocolate batter off the spoon or spontaneously kissing your partner with messy fingers.
Priorities Over Chores: Sometimes, focusing on what truly matters, like schoolwork or a passion project, is more important than perfectly clean dishes.
Creativity and Genius Thrive in Chaos: Many say that a touch of messiness is linked to creative genius.
Appreciate the Tidy Moments: Embracing imperfection helps you savor the times when things are tidy.
Dirt and Grounding: Getting messy in the grass or sand can be grounding and healing for your soul.
Real Talk: Perfectionism and Self-Acceptance I’m proud to say I’m not perfect. I have blemishes that remind me to take care of myself, uneven nostrils that took hits as a water polo goalie, and wrinkles that prove I've lived a life full of laughter. These imperfections are my story, and I wouldn't trade them for a flawless image.
The Energy Cost of Perfectionism: Perfectionism keeps us on edge, always trying to control outcomes and perceptions. It’s draining, and often, we don’t realize it until we feel completely burned out. So, I challenge you to ask yourself: Is perfectionism serving you, or are you serving perfectionism?
How to Start Letting Go:
Acknowledge It: Be honest with yourself about where perfectionism is showing up in your life.
Feel the Cost: Sit with the discomfort of realizing what perfectionism is costing you. Is it stealing your joy? Is it keeping you from showing up authentically?
Take the Next Step: Once you've felt that discomfort, use it as fuel to take action. Maybe that means posting that unedited picture or starting a project before every detail is finalized.
Conclusion: Embracing imperfection isn’t about giving up; it’s about freeing yourself to move forward, create, and live authentically. So, let’s release the need for everything to be perfect. Life isn’t perfect—and that’s where its magic lies. 💞
xo,
Melissa